Of Penises and Vaginas

I hate "feminists" and I hate "male chauvinists". Yes there are feminists who would protest about why I mentioned the word feminist before the male chauvinist. And that's why I'm writing about it here. To clear your minds. I'd say fogged and clogged minds, with serious misconceptions about the cliche term "GENDER EQUALITY". And I can see you even more angrier when I say that I don't believe in Gender Equality. Rather I believe in GENDER INEQUALITY.

Don't be furious and read on. Little knowledge is dangerous.

I believe in Gender Inequality because males and females and any other gender were created that ways. Different from each other. If males and females were the same then there wouldn't exist the very word GENDER. This concept enlightened upon me due to an instance. We're used to the concept of the toilet seat and the hue and cry about leaving it up or down. It's said that the gentlemen are supposed to leave the toilet seat down for the ladies. But then was when I questioned myself and the norm as to if it really made sense because are the ladies really incapable of putting down the toilet seat before they do their job? So is gender equality all about a mere toilet seat?

The only thing I'm trying to explain here is the concept of gender equality has taken a completely opposite turn through series of events and pseudo activists. I say it's actually the INEQUALITY between the sexes that has to be respected and treated accordingly. Reinforcing my statement that males, females and any other gender were naturally made different with different capabilities and incapabilities. I wouldn't appreciate a male who'd come and boast about trying to be pregnant for 9 months, though medically it is possible these days. But males weren't meant for that. I won't like a female who'll come and boast that they can carry the same amount of weight as any male, though some may be strong enough to do so. It's just the natural differences that separates us as males and females. And the beauty of this gender difference has helped to keep us attracted to each other (at least the majority) and reproduce to keep the human race going.

Instead, raise the issue of objectification of either of the sexes by the greedy corporate world. Raise the issue about the necessity for guys to be tall, dark and handsome or girls to be fair enough to survive in this world full of educated fools.

So the ladies can forget about the toilet seat, or expecting a seat while standing in a bus, or males opening doors for them, or a chair being pulled for her.

And for the males, don't crib about about having to do the dishes or cook at home equally along with the ladies of the house, or doing the diapers and milk bottles in the middle of the night.

If you really want to talk about anything related to GENDER, then talk about the differences. And to make things clear just talk about the biological differences. Rest all will be assured I assure.
Hence it all boils down to Penises and Vaginas, or both in some cases.

TIA - The Incompetent Airport

ओहो बल्ल घर पुगियो... (Wow, finally reached home). This is the thought among most of us when we land in Nepal after a trip anywhere else in the world. After all home is home. Same was with me. I was happy to be back home after a very enjoyable but tiring trip to Thailand with my wife.

Let me take you about 5 hours before landing at TIA. We entered the Suwarnabhoomi airport and almost 90% of the people there were Nepalese who were going back after a vacation in Thailand. They all had loads of bags after a hell lot of shopping. Obvious. And they were all so well disciplined. Saying sorry for small mistakes. Saying thank you for small helps.

So we all board the plane and after about 3 hours land at TIA. We check into the immigration, fill up the forms and start heading to the counter. My wife had to go to the restroom so was waiting for her and didn't care to stand in line till then. Suddenly within 5 minutes the line grew long and all the lines were jumbled up. Actually 5 planes from different destinations had landed simultaneously and there was a huge crowd and chaos at the immigration.

Then came a couple with an officer of the TIA and I could see that the husband was asking the officer to get their arrival formalities done sooner than the rest. The officer who could have been a friend or a relative of the guy diligently did so. That's when I intervened. I asked him as to whether it was ethical enough for the officer to entertain such requests, or was it ethical enough for the couple to ask for such a favor, or was it ethical enough for the lady at the counter to accept such a request by a fellow passenger and her colleague?

(This is the lady at the immigration who didn't even flinch while accepting the request. I made sure I told her in a loud enough voice that what she did was absolutely wrong).
The officer instead of backing out started offering me the same facility of having my immigration done along with his good friend. I obviously refused and asked him if that was how they treated our guests. Then he said that his friend and the couple who'd travelled along with us all the way from Bangkok had some kind of emergency. The couple was just behind me at the Bangkok check-in and they showed all the courtesy they could and stood in line throughout without any complaints. And suddenly when they arrive in Nepal they turn into the same old beings? I thought they'd come back with some level of education after travelling in a foreign land. Something positive to take back home. But no it was exactly opposite. And the sad part is that they were young and well educated couple. The wife I guess was even a popular model as I remember seeing her somewhere.

So that ended there and the couple without any guilt left the immigration counter. Then standing in line I turned back and saw two young guys. On asking they said they'd just come back from Malaysia. And I asked them when they were going back. To which they answered they're NEVER going back to Malaysia. And I asked why. To which they again replied that Nepalese workers there were treated like animals or even worse. So they swore that they were not going back to Malaysia at least. They told me they were coming back after 3 years. It just dawned upon me that the emergency of these two young people, who'd slogged their balls off in Malaysia with all the disrespect and exploitation, to meet their family members was more important.

Then I waited till I reached the counter for my turn. Suddenly at the very moment another officer from the immigration department came there and started counselling people and the literal words he spoke were, "धन्ना नमान्नुस, विदेशमा जस्तो ढिलो हुँदैन यहाँ" (Don't worry people, it won't take long as in foreign countries). Now everyone started laughing as this guy was telling it seriously.

I just called that asshole towards me and sarcastically said the delay was because his fellow colleagues were picking up their near and dear ones without respecting the people standing in line. He tried to justify by saying that that officer was not from the immigration section. But I just simply pointed out to the lady at the counter and said, "is she also not an officer of the immigration section?" He mumbled a bit and asked me to just take it lightly and go as his justification was "it happens sometimes". The only sad part is this sometimes happens everytime.

Well I made sure that I was loud enough for everyone to hear me and if possible act to it. The next destination was the luggage collection counter. The luggage had to go through an X-ray machine and the officers there were again asking everyone to put their belongings in their handbags. I refused as there was a stack of trays, just like in any other international airport and I asked for it. The officers refused to give me the tray. They said it was compulsory to put your belongings inside the bag. I said I won't because it's not compulsory. They again warned me that my stuffs could get lost inside the s-ray. I laughed and asked them if there was someone inside the x-ray machine. I took the tray and used it. Coming on the other side of the x-ray machine I realized why they were not letting people use the trays. They were just lazy enough to transport the tray back inside for reuse. That's it. And now you can imagine the mentality or the level of maturity of these people. I felt sorry for the families of these people because I was worried about what values were these people teaching them at home.

And yes now comes the interesting part. The couple who'd crossed the immigration half an hour before me were waiting just beside me at the luggage collection counter. And ironically my luggage came earlier and they were left waiting. I don't know what happened to their "Emergency" then.

The last thing I told him after a short argument there was, "people like you don't have the right to complain about our government".
Upon reaching home I also realized that a watch I'd bought had been STOLEN.
And hence I made it a point to raise my voice against it and write about it. Some people think I'm just complaining on social media. But social media is the best platform for general public like us to make ourselves heard. I've always considered Social Media to be PEOPLE'S MEDIA.

Note: The small video uploaded at the beginning of this write up is to show you about the situation at the airport which is an everyday affair but still our officials who live by our tax money, tend to ignore shamelessly. And also refer to my earlier blog about why we need a better airport.
http://mampaga.blogspot.com/2016/10/why-do-we-need-better-airport.html

Why do we need a better Airport ???

Ok. This thing has been a shit piece of discussion for ages now. And there have been people both for and not so against this voice.

Well and I'm not here to justify either of them. I'm just here to justify my point after my first true international travel to Thailand (not considering India and Bhutan).

I'm here to tell you WHY NEPAL NEEDS A BETTER AIRPORT.

1. No, it's not because it's our pride and that the people from abroad will have a bad first impression of our country when they land in Nepal and have to go through the bullshit at TIA.

2. No, it's not because it is a thing of beauty and again it gives an impression of the whole of nation and it's people.

3. No, it's not because we believe in "Atithi Deva Bhawa". I've seen that the more the tourism booms, the less they care about their tourists. Fuck "Atithi Deva Bhawa". Money comes first.

4. No, it's not because the tourists will not come back due to the bad service of our TIA and that it would hamper our tourism.

5. No, it's not because you will feel embarrassed in front of the people from abroad. That's the most selfish thing to think about.

Well the one and only one reason why there should be a BETTER AIRPORT is because PEOPLE JUST DESERVE GOOD SERVICE. It's just plain simple as that. You're travelling and it's just the normal convenience that people seek. It doesn't have to be an art gallery level of beautiful.

I was looking around the Suwarnabhoomi Airport, which has been highly regarded by every Nepali going there. And I was expecting something great. But all I could look at was a huge steel structure with lots of trusses and iron pillars and glass panes and that's that. The only piece of art that I saw was the structure of "Samudra Manthan" in the center of the duty free section.

Else everything was just plain beauty in itself and nothing more. And the beauty was that everything just functioned properly in its own right.

It wasn't very extraordinary. It just made travelling easier. And that's what I wanted or every traveler wants. Be it local or international.
Honestly, it's like having a good spouse. Not necessarily the prettiest one, not necessarily the most talented, not necessarily the best cook, not necessarily the best educated, not necessarily the best in bed, not necessarily the best in everything. Just plain simple GOOD.

So I really don't believe in people who give the above 5 or more reasons for having a better airport. I say even if this existing small one operates in the most effective way, we and everyone would be more than happy.
I guess everyone deserves that much at least, just like a good spouse.

No Daughter Please

I know what you're thinking. And I can read your mind. Yes I say no to a DAUGTHER.

Well the story goes like this. Today our whole family went to see off my cousin sister at the airport as she was leaving for the US of A as she recently married an NRN.

Till now I've been pestering my wife for a daughter after a son we've had. Though there is her medical problems on one side but there's this desperate want for a daughter on my side. Yes I can understand that you're actually thinking that what I'm writing is exactly opposite to the title of this blog.

Now people who know me should have already understood that there was something mysterious about the title. And for people who didn't know me till now... I don't have anything to say.

Yes I have always wanted and still want a daughter. To such an extent that sometimes I sideline my wife's medical condition. But I do come back to my senses. Sometimes I think about adopting one, and that's still on my mind.

But now you ask why the title. Well today I realized and thought about not having a daughter. My own or adopted. Because I realized that a daughter will somehow leave you one day and the pain will be excruciating, specially for a person like me who'd be so very much attached to her. Yes my son could also leave us. But I'm sure there is a difference. The difference between not being worried about someone leaving you and someone leaving you when you don't want her to.

I think I wouldn't want to be in the pain of my daughter leaving me after getting married to some guy. Yes that imaginary person will always be "some guy" to me. And I also realize that I'm writing this even when I'm not a father to a daughter, just by looking and trying to realize some other person's pain.

So today I declare to myself that I no longer want a daughter. My apologies will always be there to my son for not giving him a sibling but here I'm being a little too selfish.

Hope someday he'll grow up and read this and realize it. Or maybe he'll someday give me a beautiful granddaughter.

P,S, I hope you realize that it's nothing about male domination or it has nothing to do with gender equality or any of that shit.